Why Delhi continues to be the rape capital of India.

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<EDIT>: 20th December, 2012: Please read with the caveat that I am very much a North Indian male living in Delhi. You may consider “North Indian male” short-hand for the guys brought up in families with outdated notions of honor and masculinity. Nearly all of my good friends are in fact North Indian men who are some of the kindest, most chivalrous people you had meet. But let’s face it, in NCR, we would be a minority. </EDIT>

As people across the country try to make sense of the ghastly gang-rape of a paramedical student, here’s a short explanation: it’s because of the North Indian male. What exactly is wrong with this guy? Plenty: brought up on a steady diet of patriarchal superiority and misogyny, he is yet to come to grasp with a simple fact; that when it comes to women, his mindset is still medieval. In spite of all the national outrage, the head-shaking by the pointy-heads, the candle light vigils and the amped up rhetoric of the English media, rest assured that the person who really needs to do some soul searching will go to bed tonight convinced of either one of two things: 1.) It was the woman’s fault for being out late at night with a male friend or 2.) The sexual intercourse was a consensual commercial transaction, and when the arrangement went sour, the woman raised the bogey of rape.

Why are these regressive attitudes so deep-seated? And why in spite of all the evidence to the contrary does the needle of the Delhi man’s Neanderthal mentality refuse to move? The fault lies in how a large chunk of the North Indian society is structured. This is a society where a woman is an object, which at all times must be owned by a man. She is the vessel of the family’s honour and if she does anything which might cause the family to lose face, the menfolk are justified in restoring this honour by whatever means necessary, including murder. This is not just a system imposed by men on unwilling women. In most cases, it’s accepted without question and indeed passed on from mothers to sons. It begins right at childhood, when boys are given preference over girls in everything from nutrition to health to education. The rate of honor killings is the highest among communities which have traditionally been considered martial or agricultural castes.

The events as reported seem to have transpired thusly: The perpetrators were drunk and offered the couple a ride, who mistook the bus to be public transport. They started misbehaving with the girl and when her companion intervened, they assaulted him. The news reports say that the girl tried to defend her friend by biting one of the perpetrators. It was after this that they took turns raping her. This sequence of events is crucial: the intention to rape was not formed when they picked up the couple, in which case they would have tried to drive to a secluded spot right away. It’s only when the girl asserted herself that ignited the primal instincts of these animals. For all the mis-guided moral guardians of our society who claim that girls are to blame for inciting rape through their dressing and immoral behavior, this is exactly where there thick-headedness stands exposed. There was nothing come-hither about the girl’s appearance. These men were not sexually aroused by her. Her only crime was to stand up for her friend. Now, she had to be put in her place. A Delhi man cannot tolerate being shouted at by an object as lowly as a woman, that too in front of his friends. A re-assertion of power was necessary to avoid “losing face”.

A casual parsing of the names and occupations of the main accused in the latest outrage: Singh, bus driver; Singh, unknown; Gupta, fruit seller; Sharma: Gym instructor. All are immigrants from Rajasthan, Bihar and UP, living in the RK Puram slums of Delhi. Not surprisingly, all are states with the lowest literacy level among girls. Among all the regions of India, the North has the lowest participation of women in the workforce. These are states where being upper-caste and male still affords special privileges and entitlement to power. More than Mumbai, Bangalore or Kolkata, Delhi is an island that is mentally and geographically surrounded by an ocean of illiteracy, under-employment, and backwardness resting on the fault lines of caste tectonics.

In all probability, these men were brought up in homes that prized male children over girls. They were provided with whatever little access to education was available. Their sisters were probably engaged exclusively in household work, in many cases tending to their brothers. Their families probably felt relieved that none of their girls brought dishonor on the family by say, falling in love with a person from a wrong caste. They took pride in getting them married off at an appropriately young age. These men probably had little or no interaction at all with women in their hometowns. They have never been conditioned to believe that women are human beings as evolved as their own selves: that they too can have emotions, aspirations and the desire to break out of the rural monotony of marriage and bearing children.

It’s a man like this, with his half-formed ideas that usually migrates to Delhi in search of livelihood. What he encounters is a societal ethos completely in contradiction to what he has been accustomed to. It’s a society where girls can choose who to go out with, sometimes multiple men before marriage. Although he doesn’t have access to pubs and malls that liberalization’s children take for granted, he still sees the evidence all around. Women in jeans going to work in fancy multi-nationals, driving their own cars, wearing skirts to college, going out for drinks with male friends. It is a world which is at once confounding as well as enticing. He also knows that this is a world which he will never have access to, because of the limitations of his education and circumstances. In the village, his upper-caste status meant something but in the metro where social standing corresponds only to economics, it is utterly meaningless.

And then there are the media of mass entertainment with their unrepentant objectification of women in newspapers, films and TV. In the entertainment world, Akshay Kumar plays a lout who cannot express his feelings for his lady love through words. So he communicates by letting his hand slip on her “chikni kamar” and singing a song about it, thus channeling the basest of urges of eve-teasers on our public transport. And guess what? The on-screen lady loves it! So why wouldn’t everybody else?

In most cases, an immigrant with a blue-collar job would be careful enough not to transgress against an upper or middle class woman (although there have been exceptions). He understands that the law can work swiftly to deliver justice to the well-off.

But a para-medical student with a male friend who has to use public transport at night with the temerity to defend herself? That is the final straw. She has to be taught a lesson. In the booze induced stupor, he can avenge all his humiliations, he can be momentarily powerful and he can deliver justice to the slut. He probably believes that he can get away with it too. Surely, this little cunt has to be taught a lesson and needs to be put in place. And this other man accompanying her? Why does he get to own her?

I know some of this sounds extremely patrician as if only the lower middle classes were to blame for all the rapes. But this is true for a majority of Delhi men of all classes, particularly in families with outdated notions of honor where women are expected to have little interaction with men or the outside world. Almost everybody in India is familiar with the comic boorishness of a typical Delhi guy. I have lived in 4 metros in India and Delhi is the only place where even in a minor kerkuffle, both parties will invariably go into “bande-bulata-hoon” mode. Even in front of strangers, the guy is less worried about recovering his damages but more interested in “saving face” by having the upper hand in a roadside brawl.

A similarly misguided idea of a masculine ownership ideal extends to women among the educated classes. It is a common practice for groups of boys riding in a car to harass girls walking on the street. That is, in cases where they are magnanimous enough not to pull her inside and rape her outright. In Noida, I saw a 14 year old boy riding pillion on a Kinetic Honda, wearing the uniform of a prestigious school; pass a lewd comment on two ladies in their 20s, before speeding away. I was once in a party where two guys (a Haryanvi and a Punjabi), who were competing for the affections of the same girl, almost came to blows about who will take the lady home. In the entire half an hour argument, neither of these men considered it fit to ask the lady whether she even wished to be accompanied by either of them. Mind you, all three of them belonged to what can easily be called as a crorepati upper class society. The rapists of Delhi are likely to be the nouveau riche of places like Rohtak and Moradabad or children of migrants from Jind and Bareilly.

Which underscores the sheer ridiculousness of people shouting at India Gate holding up banners in English. The rapists and potential rapists have no interaction with the English or even the mainstream media. On a night when English as well as Hindi national news channels feigned outrage over the gang-rape, the local Uttar Pradesh news channel (which is far more likely to have the ears and eyeballs of these young men) couldn’t have been less bothered about the incident.

My conversations with average Delhi men reveal a disturbing but remarkably consistent trope: that there are very few legitimate rapes. They genuinely believe that women who have boyfriends and careers or who drink alcohol develop insatiable sexual urges. In their world view, there are only two types of women: the ones who are like the mothers and sisters they grew up around: married away at a young age and dedicated to housework and child rearing for the rest of their lives. These are the normal, cultured ones. Any woman deviating from this straight and narrow is well.. just asking for it. It’s either that or the rape victim was simply peddling her wares. When the transactions go awry, they cry rape. Autowallahs, taxi drivers, roadside stall owners are reliable broadcasters of salacious gossip. On more than a few occasions, I have heard them go out of their way to remark on how they regularly see prostitutes roaming around in certain areas. For some reason, they love to talk about it. It bothers them because of its unobtainability but also simultaneously reassures them because it confirms their worst suspicions about women. They are convinced that both the high society and low are steeped in commercial sex. Last month, I was in a taxi whose driver told me the story of how he once taxied a girl from one of Delhi’s posh localities to another. On the way back, the girl was wearing a different dress. On that evidence alone, he was convinced, convinced that she could be nothing but a high society call girl. “Main samajhta nahi hoon kya?”, was how he claimed to have cracked the puzzle of the changed dress. The worst aspect of it all: nearly every policeman at the Station House Officer level and below fully subscribes to this theory about women. But then, this is hardly unexpected since the policemen come from the same milieu and neither is this attitude of policemen unique to Delhi. What sets Delhi apart is the peculiar non-cosmopolitan North Indian demographic and the consequent parochial mindset.

What this reveals is a common belief on the streets of Delhi: all women who don’t adhere to a strict 19th century “traditional” moral code are somehow deviant. We might be shocked that even women in large parts of North India would be more likely to blame the victim even in the latest act of barbarism. Why was she outside anyway at 9 PM with a man? Their aspirational mindsets make them inviters of rape and they shouldn’t complain when it happens. This is what needs to change. And it will take time and effort and education and the emancipation of women in the hinterland. All this is happening and as with everything else in India, change can be glacial. One of the most moving news stories that I saw on TV this year was a heart-warming one. CNN interviewed a backward caste girl in Haryana, who said that as college enrollment improved among the girls of her caste, the upper caste boys who had all dropped out of college mocked and harassed them frequently. This story was done in the backdrop of the spurt of rape cases reported from Haryana. Make what you will of it.

While this happens, the fear of God needs to be put in the men. We can cry hoarse about capital punishments and political accountability. The fact is that existing laws can be deterrence enough if the upholders can find the balls to file FIRs, treat victims kindly, collect evidence, pursue the perpetrators diligently and most importantly secure convictions.  Unless the policemen become sensitized that women are indeed being genuinely raped without asking for it and unless the criminal justice system can overcome its legendary tardiness, Delhi will remain the rape capital of India, and maybe even South Asia and Asia.

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52 Responses to Why Delhi continues to be the rape capital of India.

  1. Aditya says:

    Hit the nail on the head!!!Also, it tangentially explains the lack of outrage over the frequent violations of dalit/lower caste womenfolk…particularly in the north(Though this does not in any way condone the atrocity meted out to this poor lady).

  2. Rahul says:

    Brilliantly written, and analyzed it to the root cause.. Wonderful article!

  3. Shshank says:

    Wonderful article ! I think the only way to restrain these rascals is to have stricter laws , may be try rape convicts to attempt to murder equivalent, and set precedence !

  4. Bhumika says:

    Though I agree that Delhi might be the rape capital of India, things are no different in other parts of our country either….I constantly read at least one article a month or even more about how a girl was molested in some city or the other…. Is it changing at all anywhere in our country? I couldn’t tell from the way women are treated at home, at work or while travelling.

  5. Pooja says:

    I dont think things are drastically different in other Indian cities either. More than the law, sometimes the god-men (swamijis/priests) have more influence over these people. They should be made to preach against this atrocity!
    Brilliant article!

  6. sv says:

    Well analysed and brilliantly written!
    Agreed that only laws such as capital punishment cannot be effective unless there is a robust system to enforce the same.. But how actionable is the fear of God? Are we sure that men who perpetrate this crime believe in God? Even if they do, highly likely that they may draw misgudided logic from the likes of Lord Krishna to justify their heinous act. Culture and fear are for the civilised and the men we are talking about are beyond all that.

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  8. Nishad says:

    The desirable state of society is neither patriarchal nor matriarchal but equitable one. and it can be achieved only by changing the stubborn attitude and increasing literacy. All other solutions will create only temporary results.

  9. Kovid Kapoor says:

    Another rape in Delhi? Better write another fashionable blog post about how Delhi men are all pigs.

    Honestly, most of this is just sweeping generalizations and arm-chair philosophy. I know the rape statistics in Delhi are appalling, to say the least, and I’m not a big fan of the place either, but I have had enough of these posts condemning all Delhi men as pigs.

    Oh and BTW, “…the local Uttar Pradesh news channel couldn’t have been less bothered about the incident.” this was just stupid. Makes me wonder if you even saw any local UP news channel.

  10. Aseem says:

    You have never lived in delhi or bangalore I guess.They did not mistake the bus for a government transport vehicle.We all know that because of low frequency of public buses private buses after completion of daily chores take up the work of ferrying illegally by paying the police.You are an arm-chair critic.The divide is between poor and rich,educated vs non-educated and a great extent the upbringing.We have many different social stratas in this country and each one preys on the other be it economically or barbarically.Death penalty,stricter laws,expidite judiciary are the answers since religion has failed to be deterrent.

    • isha says:

      Arm-chair critic…right…coz the writer is theoretically correct at places but factually wrong @ a no. of points!
      1. the intention to rape was not formed when they picked up the couple
      2. All are immigrants … living in the RK Puram slums of Delhi.
      3. Delhi is an island that is mentally and geographically surrounded by an ocean of illiteracy, under-employment, and backwardness resting on the fault lines of caste tectonics. (check the employment & literacy rate of Delhi; caste prob is much more prevalent in Bihar n UP than in delhi, yet the the latter is more notorious for rape. Acc. to your logic, Bihar n UP should have been rapists’ havens, wotsay?)
      4. On a night when English as well as Hindi national news channels feigned outrage over the gang-rape (How sure are you that they ‘feigned’? Is it not your assumption?)
      5. it’s because of the North Indian male (What a blanket statement!) During my trip to Chennai (also a metro city), I went to beaches in skirts n capris and was really uncomfortable as the male fraternity kept on staring my calves n knees!!!
      6. The perpetrators were drunk and offered the couple a ride, who mistook the bus to be public transport. (Mistook??? Do you even know that such buses ply as chartered buses across delhi?)

  11. mechmarvels says:

    Hammered the right nail buddy…
    hope we will be able to turn this arround

  12. Pradeep says:

    while the article is well written and makes the right points, one may not agree with the sweeping damning statement ,’it’s because of the north indian male’ , made in the article.
    North indians are as fine a lot of indian and world citizens like anybody else. the article should restrict to the focus of the few who commit the crime than generalise,i feel.

  13. naveen says:

    Please either get your facts right, or stay true to your name, Maunvrat!

    The issue is a lack of governance and non-enforcement of law and order. Similar attitudes towards women prevail in many parts of the world but tough enforcement of laws effectively deters such incidents.

    I quote from a PTI Report to refute your North India bogey.

    West Bengal and Andhra Pradesh have earned the dubious distinction of leading a list of states where crime against women in 2011 was highest.

    With 7.5 per cent share of the country’s population, West Bengal accounted for nearly 12.7 per cent of total crime against women by reporting 29,133 cases.

    The National Crime Records Bureau figures show that Andhra Pradesh, accounting for nearly 7 per cent of the country’s population, recorded 12.4 per cent of total crime against women with 28,246 cases.

    Madhya Pradesh reported the highest number of rape cases (3,406) accounting for 14.1 per cent of total such cases reported in the country.

    • ganesh says:

      I’d like to say just one thing here – if the articles were a true measure of crime and not just reported crime, you may have the semblance of a point. More crimes are reported because of an elevated civic sense, not because the crime rate is any higher in those places. Lack of trust in the justice system is something that really needs to be bridged, and that can only come with proper governance and stricter enforcement of the law, as you rightly stated in your second sentence.

    • Anonymous says:

      Rate of crime against women is not high in Delhi, Bihar, UP, Rajasthan, Haryana, and other similar northern states because of two reasons :- (1) Women are afraid to file complaints, they have been subjugated all their life and are more afraid of the consequences of filing official police complaint. (2) Even if an educated fearless woman tries to file complaint about harassment, in these northern states, police further harasses the victim and still does not file the complaint. So that’s the reason of so called low crime rate against women in these states. So every-time facts don’t tell the full story.

  14. Delhite says:

    First of all, let me congratulate you on writing a well-worded article based on pre-conceived notions and false assumptions.
    What happened was very unfortunate and I’m in no way trying to justify it. Lets realize that it was a collective failure and it could have happened anywhere in India. The reaction would have been totally different had it not happened in Delhi. As Indians, we love to point-fingers and passing the buck is something that we’ve mastered over generations. You can’t judge a city and its people by the behavior of immigrants (None of the accused is from Delhi). Please check the facts before you even call Delhi to be the rape capital of India (http://blogs.wsj.com/indiarealtime/2012/10/15/delhi-journal-the-capital-of-crime-not-really/). Go watch some Tollywood movies if you think Akshay Kumar’s movies are vulgar and obscene. The very Singhs that you rant about, usually happen to be the ones that guard our borders. Lets not even talk about the bias that takes place against North Indian taxi drivers in Mumbai or students in private engineering colleges of Bangalore.
    Peace.
    - A Delhite

  15. Deepashri says:

    u have pinpointed to the precise causes !!!!!!! When a place becomes notorious for something as heinous as a rape….some thing is more than jus wrong with the mindset of people… or in this case less educated boorish brutes!! In any corner of India, unless people learn to respect women and stop categorizing them..such cases wont be minimized… !!! what makes all of us collectively helpless is the fact that as we sit n blog around…. some girl is still getting eve teased jus outside our windows..all because she is wearing tighttttt jeans …. Petitions/laws/criminal punishments might be a cure but the prevention is going to be an outcome of real sex equality implemented by each one of us in our lives.

  16. Simran Rana says:

    Hi,
    I understand that you are giving vent to your feelings, but by being prejudiced against north-indians you are inviting your readers’ fury and putting them on the defensive. I think you need to look at this incident in light of the many other rapes and molestations that have taken place all over India.
    Also, I don’t think that language can be a barrier to a method of protest. Certainly, these marches at India Gate will be translated in the vernacular. It’s not only men but also women who need to stand up for themselves, report crimes, stop feeling guilty and have the strength to defend themselves since I don’t think our laws are going to change overnight. If these men are not punished and we don’t raise our voice (in any language because someone else can’t understand it) we are going to regress further.

    • Varshi says:

      well, women are being brave. girls like me are trying to walk on the streets without fear but every time, we get discouraged. we are subjected to merciless comments. i experienced them even today, even after these incidents. i just hope people broaden their views and learn to behave.

  17. Vivek Lochan says:

    education is sorely required in all parts of India. good education would mean that children learn about equal rights of men and women at a young age and come to respect each other. as long as this is not done at a young age, nothing much is going to change.

    the writer is correct in saying that change is happening and at a glacial pace. considering the state of education in our country – basically the government schools not the high end schools where you and I would go, it is going to take at least a couple of generations for education to become an important part of our upbringing.

    we need to sit up, take stock of what has happened and change ourselves. change begins at the lowest level and we all need to do our part in making this change happen

  18. Ayush Baheti says:

    A well written piece. Though some parts look more out of anger than factual information – the message is still conveyed. A better, more in depth read into the minds of NCR policemen would be the article by Tahalka, in April
    http://archive.tehelka.com/story_main52.asp?filename=Ne140412Coverstory.asp

  19. this Article made by day … what a thoughtful article that so logically explores the root cause of rapes in delhi.

  20. Varshi says:

    You are absolutely right. and this does not happen only in Delhi. It happens in Chennai too, where I live. Its just that those kind of people must be educated. they must be taught to behave. they take women for granted and they must be made to broaden their minds. This can be done only through proper education and by abolishing illiteracy. This is what separates these men from those who were present at the protest; this is what separates the men who rape and the men who protest against it. and as the journalist of The Hindu said, laws cannot protect women. only Education does!

    • Jigsaw says:

      Totally agree.
      Education – not just education, but good education – is the only thing that’s guaranteed to develop this country in every respect – Per capita income, broad mindedness, human equality (gender and caste). Good education, because Indian schools only teach students to get better marks in exams and not to make them broad minded and appreciate human life. A bunch of my friends, who have completed their engineering and are working in respectable companies, still think that women who wear short skirts ask for being eve teased and raped (typical argument being “why do they have to show their skin”).

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  22. Alok Sharma says:

    The analysis makes no sense to me at all. I have seen roadside romeos teasing and passing lewd comments on girls during broad daylight on Bangalore streets as well. And you can’t blame this on class or caste divides as well. we have such people in every class and every caste. and everywhere in India. On the very same day of this rape, there were 2 rapes in Karnataka, one involved a 5 yr old girl.. How would you analyze that. and why people are not displaying the same outrage on this incident as they did on Delhi-rape.

  23. Abhishek Ghosh says:

    You hit the nail there bro! What needs to change in India urgently is a sweeping literacy drive in compulsory co-educational schools, so that males recognize and acknowledge women as equal human beings and not commodities who go around according to their whims. Stricter punishment, police vigilance are necessary but temporal solutions. Unless this patriarchal mindset changes, NOTHING will change!

  24. subho says:

    @Alok Sharma…

    With all due respect, I think your words ” the analysis makes no sense to me at all” is mostly because of the surname Sharma involved in this case. Of course this article has been formulated with a high clarity of thought which does have dept. The reasons provided are quite true. But as you said, why the case of Karnataka is not being analysed is because Delhi is far more ahead in the issues of rape cases. The fact that a 5 year old was abused on the same day was a mere coincidence, but rapes are dominating the social culture of Delhi for far too much time. I also do believe that in the whole nation, Bihar and UP ,Haryana and Rajasthan have the highest level of being Conservative. Blame it on the upbringing and the unbelievable concept they have developed in gender discrimination. These states have the highest rates of taking dowry while arranged marriages. Oh, I apologize, what exactly is love marriage. Something which does not earn you dowry. Then why fall in love. All women are bitches who need to be ruled and dominated. Get it straight sir, these people do immigrate to other states and sadly but honestly they do a lot of damage like parasites. It is high time they should let go of this barbarianism and transform the communities. Bring in more tenderness and gentle manliness into your attitudes and you will see a hole different world.

    • Puneet says:

      Don’t make assumptions of what may or may not be acceptable to someone.Your comment is a reflection of who you are – not what other people are.I would suggest you read more before you rush to narrow-minded conclusions.South India is far worse than the North when it comes to crime against women.The conviction rate in the South is so low that women do not bother going to the authorities for help.And read about Child Prostitution and Trafficking of Women and Children in India – it shows who the real barbarians in India are.

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  26. amritha says:

    By virtue of just being a woman, she is raped in some way or the other. Stripped off either her self confidence, or self esteem, or intellect, or the very basic right to her being ! The country wants to change, but doesn’t understand that the change is going in the wrong direction. And the narrow minded “society” is not only in Delhi ! It is no different in other parts of the country. The only difference is that this time the perverse act has been ghory and sadistic, and more importantly reported.

  27. Anshuman says:

    hi there.. first of all, congrats on writing such a beautiful piece of crap.. yes, that’s what it is.. i am a north indian, a Bihari(which,going by ur article, makes me almost a criminal), a hindu zamindar with quite a sizeable estate to my name.. in short, i fulfill all ur precribed criteria for lookin down upon women and my family being all male chauvinist pigs.. sadly though, that’s not the case.. My mother is a professor, i am an engnrng student, i have female cousins, some are profs, one is in HCL, another is a scientist, and all in all, we were brought with the mindset that we look up to our sisters for inspiration.. and my family is not an exception.. you have never been to either of the states mentioned, have you?? yess, there are people of the type you describe in ur pathetic article, but their numbers are dwindling.. they are fast becoming extinct.. as per your delhites, i have seen kids of family born and living in delhi and/or metros, behaving like dogs.. so kindly shut the fuck up about it being regional.. Their is no fault of a female in a rape, no matter if she is in a bikini or a burqa.. no one’s saying that, but blaming it on reginal mentalities is sick.. so kindly be true to your name, and go for a maunvrat

    • subho says:

      Hey man….you believe that your family is highly educated and do have a lot of modernized thinking…that awesome….then why use this kind of words when you are placing a blog where people are debating in a professional way. The words ” shut the fuck up” clears the fact that you are frustrated with the way the debate is heading. Come on man. Take a break. It is high time for you to show the world your real family values which is entirely resting on your virtues and instincts.

    • Ankur Vig says:

      i agree with subho…
      Anshuman first of all ur dialect describes what u actually are…secondly u feel so proud of ur family academics…maybe coz ur family is an exception in ur locality…which in fact is very common in metropolitan cities like delhi…so don’t fly high!!
      and speaking of the misbehaving pigs u’ve seen born/brought up in delhi…that indeed might be an exception..

  28. Vasundhara says:

    Hi all..read the article and also the comments..and not to my surprise u people started running into a debate on such an issue as well…Its high time we all should raise above our petty region,religion issues..the underlying fact remains that there is something wrong with the society only…its WE who are responsible..the onus is on us completely…No doubt the accused deserve to be subjected to the most horrifying punishment possible..But we have to look at the root of the problem…Laws,no matter how strict they are cant change ones’s basic instinct and his/her real character..what law will u explain to a drunkard????or to an illiterate????would they be even aware of such things??would they be even thinking of “laws” while committing such barbaric crimes???If they would have been so sane,they would not have been doing this in first place.
    We have an humongous task to enlighten our rotten society…and that can be only achieved with Education…education in real sense…

  29. Anirudh says:

    I must congratulate the author for having written this post – very well thought out and penned.

    I was curious to see what sort of comments one would receive upon writing such a post – controversial, as it is…

    After browsing through them, I realize that a lot of these people have taken the North Indian rhetoric too personally as can bee seen in one of the comments above:

    ” am a north indian, a Bihari(which,going by ur article, makes me almost a criminal), a hindu zamindar with quite a sizeable estate to my name.. in short, i fulfill all ur precribed criteria for lookin down upon women and my family being all male chauvinist pigs.. sadly though, that’s not the case”

    This person definitely doesn’t understand the point of the article, while the author has tried to shed some light on the psyche of the general populace. I’m sure there will be many out there who would plainly refute what has been written, only due to their lacking in comprehension.

    What happens when one provides a lot of examples while analyzing a situation, is that people dwell on those examples as the message, rather than what the example is pointing at. The very fact that the ‘Akshay Kumar’ example was taken by another individual, citing a similar state of affairs in Tollywood, in effect, trying to refute the seeming regional caveat – shows how one can sway away from the point of the article. The Akshay Kumar example had little to do with building a case for any regional angle to rape. Unfortunately people quickly form notions while reading, that leads them to misconstrue the idea.

    And there are people who are taking offense in the fact that certain surnames have been taken. They don’t understand that what the author is considering in this particular case, is pointing at the predicament of the the high-caste Hindu, who has no upper hand in a city where status is driven by economics. Of course, there are a lots of Singhs out there who are, and have made our nation proud. Taking that as a precursor to bashing a particular community is nonsense. Again

    It would hardly surprise me if more such half-baked comments are in the pipeline, once I’m done with mine.

  30. Varun Goel says:

    1. Author’s insight into how “six drunk men who gave lift to a young girl and her male friend to a place totally out of their way and then starting an argument” suddenly turned into rapists only after the girl protested started to protest does not hold any water.
    2. I dont mean to say that 600 rape cases a year is a small number, but the way the author has characterized the mindset of a delhiite, this no. would have been much much higher in a population of some 2 crore people. If the author IS actually the way he thinks about himself, he is not in a minority.
    3. The reasons that the author has given for exceeding no. of such cases hold good for all metro cities in India. Sri Ram Sena (Bangalore, Mangalore), Shiv Sena /MNS (Mumbai) and many such outfits across the country are famous for thrashing young couples on valentines day.
    4. I guess the author has forgotten the recent molestation case in Guwahati. Guwahati is not a metro like Delhi, but still a group of unrelated people without any plans can gather up on road and “seize the opportunity” . And still a bigger crowd gathers to “enjoy the show.”
    5. Regarding the few examples illustrated by the author, like his experience with a taxi-driver, such people are present all around the country.
    What I want to say is that, with all my heart to the unfortunate girl, this is an incident which crossed some extremes and got media attention. And so the protests everywhere. Otherwise such cases of crime against women are very common in all parts of our country. There is no particular cause to such incidents, and each such case represents a total failure of our society at all levels, political, judicial, internal policing, society as a whole, and personal as an individual.

  31. Mamta says:

    What a thought provoking and well written article, well done! You have hit the nail on the head about the mentality of many middle class/north Indian boys and men. they seem to think the the girls are asking for it, if they do anything outside their own narrow minded thinking! A vast majority of perfectly decent Indian men and boys must be hanging their heads in shame at such behaviour, but perhaps with a tiny voice even in their head saying, ‘may be she did asked for it’ by doing something they personally would not approve in their family females! You know, Eve-teasing is something unique to India, partly popularised by Bollywood, where a girl actually falls for the guy who is being an ass! This name ‘eve teasing’ makes light of the seriousness of this atrocious practice. It is not funny at all for the poor victim of this and can be quite sinister at times.
    Beating up or hanging such criminals doesn’t do anything to stop these idiots. They should be shamed in public and then put in prison for a very, very long time, with no parole, so that they can reflect on their folly. If the girl dies in the incident or kills herself with shame (though it should really be not her shame, but the rapists), then the culprits should be considered for capital punishment.
    My heart bleeds for the poor girl, may God bless her and keep her and give her strength to recover. I hope that there are people around her and her friend, to tell them that it was not their fault and that she should not feel the shame of this incidence!

    • Sam says:

      Everything said and done I actually feel bad for the girl, who went through the trauma and now due to pressure from all the people trying to fight back. Usually after a trauma your brain tries to block the bad memory so it doesn’t affect the body and our body tries to recouperate in different ways, and given some time we get over the trauma. Then we can talk freely about it. I get it that what happend was horrific. But the girl needs some time off, to get back to normalcy. Everybody is screaming and shouting, calling her out. Fighting on behalf of her and other women too but imgine if something like that would have happend to one of us. Would you immediately want to talk about it?
      Also everybody is upset that these people did this and woman are not safe. Just getting those people hanged is not the answer. The mindset is never going to change. I dont think the situation would have escalated so much if there was only one of those guys on the bus. If he had tried to harras the woman, then she and her friend would beaten him up. Men who think they are superior to woman and women who think they can Handel the whole world by themselves are the two reasons incidents like these happen. If something like this was happening to your sister or mother and your uncle was doing this, other woman of the house will try and cover it up for the sake of thr name of the household. Only men are not fault, women equally are at fault. Unless both the factions realize their actual place in society, these incidents will keep happening.

      • Ruchika Aggarwal says:

        Going by the defence of Delhite, I agree that similar things happen in other parts of the country. Being broadcast on mumbai radio is a case, where a woman was passed lewd comments on, and the guy who tried to protect was “killed”. Since he’s not half killed, his case is not as strong. Mumbaikar explanation – must be a bihari. Comeon, there were enough mumbaikars on the road.
        Delhi is surrounded by three semi-literate states, while mumbai has only one. The issue as much belongs to top strata of society. Not boys , men objectify women. I know of a senior cancer doctor in a delhi hospital who regularly stroked the ass of a patient’s daughter in law . The belief that women are an object is truly, well entreched in north- men, though
        As for the belief, that women who dress up, work and drink have misplaced sexual desires, it exists in Mumbai as much as Delhi. Its mostly about too many stratas of society co habiting and upbringing.
        The incident is truly unfortunate. Case from guwahati quoted here is a shame. God bless our dear country, the men and women.

  32. Puneet says:

    Your response is typical from people from the South and the West of the country who decide to bash the North without any information of what it is like for women in their own backyard,South India.One look at the National Crime Records Bureau reports and you will see it is Andhra Pradesh in the South which has the highest number of crimes committed against women and the whole of South India barely gets to the double digits when it comes to conviction for crimes against women.And Maam Punjab does not belong to the cow belt.Update your knowledge.And based on what one Punjabi said,you decided to generalise about all Punjabis.Speaks volumes about your thought-process.Pathetic.It is people like you who would willingly turn a gruesome incident into petty regional point-scoring and obscure these issue with your ill-informed opinions that real solutions to these problems are never found.

  33. ashish says:

    Very good analysis! Being a man, I do see how most of our desi men are pigs. Every one of us either know friends or have been themselves, an opportunist pig that would have tried their way with any girl, if they can get away with it. The fear of future is what keeps most men on the right path. There will be always a few that are exceptions, for whom, either their religion or their self moral, makes the the best of men, and if you are one of them, good for you and the society! But for the rest of the animal pack, strong punishments are the only deterrent.

    Those who actually do not know what happened to the girl, an iron rod was shoved up her female part so many times that her intestine came out. She CAN not eat ever in her life! Childbirth is hard enough for women, try having your intestine removed through one of your holes!

    Guess, that could be the best punishment for these pigs. Take the same rod and remove their inside the same way. Those who think this makes us Talibans, remember this, Talibans do not punish the male in this situation. They will be stoning the girl and allow the rapists to throw the first stone.

    If you do not want to follow rules in the society, expect the same behavior back at you.

    Delhi needs a Dexter.
    Ashish

  34. Anupama says:

    The main reason is the thinking of society. Ppl in our society feels that males are superiour than females. They even curse or feels sad when a girl is born, they treat their sons as Prince and daughters as maids.I have seen such things in my relatives place and even tried to change there outlook but this will take hell lot of time to change there mindset. Man wont give respect to women unless our society’s mindset remains like this. I hate such sick mentality of indian society.

    • subho says:

      And trust me…this mindset is not going to go….sadly….we are too much absorbed by tradition and history…the concept was in the Indian society right from the time of satyagriha…and it has been programmed in our genes for centuries. Even educated households who consider themselves as khandanis have wiered concepts in their brains…what would you say to the middle or the lower class…they cannot be blamed…

  35. mcadams99@yahoo.com says:

    I think rape should be called torture or rape-torture. Calling it rape obscures the fact that it is torture. This rape is shocking because the torture aspect comes to the fore. But it is always there.

  36. Abhijay says:

    excellent analysis …. in all the articles I read about the incident …this makes the most sense ..

  37. Reblogged this on A Silent Dreamer and commented:
    Read this, please.
    Maybe, we need to stop publishing angry tweets and facebook statuses and start working collectively on making our country a better place to live in.
    Maybe, we can make a difference. Yes, WE.

  38. Sam says:

    Very good article. However it is just an individual’s view of generalization. Further without any support or action, this just becomes a bedtime story which we like to watch TV before going to bed, as Kalindi Manek said in this blog thread.
    Weak justice system is always like a weak backbone. As in a news article, India is perceived as a country where goons and police are feared same by common citizen and lawlessness dominates.
    It is also a country where diversity has created dis-unity since centuries. It comes on surprise that British ruled India for centuries. “Indians have been and are willing to kill themselves for personal greed” dialogue from Jhansi ki Rani TV episode.
    Will this change ? Yes, only when we think alike and work alike and overcome differences and convert them to our advantage as strength – like getting Independence. However, after that we have lost ourselves and everything with it. It is very sad to see state of affairs, economy, misery and life of a common man in India today.
    Yes, many religious God men do not focus on these real issues … why ? Same reason – no patriotism or real philanthropy, but just personal greed.
    May be the only solution is to again invite British or someone else to rule over the country again !! May be we only work better as slaves only, nothing else….

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